Visitation and Support

It's been two weeks since we've seen or heard from the he-ex. He called this morning to ask me to drop the kids off tonight at his brother's house. He also told me not to go anywhere near his girlfriend's house. I didn't even ask why. Enough said. They're fighting again.

Hubby freaked out just at the mention of the he-ex's name just like I (used to/sometimes still) do at the the sound of the she-ex's name. He started in on me about all of the child support that I'm owed (to the tune of $10,000.00) and was angry that instead of me driving the kids 35 min. away to the girlfriend's house that now I have to drive them an hour to the brother's house. He says that I shouldn't let the he-ex see the kids unless or until he gets his own car and his own place to live. I think that although Hubby has a valid point, I cannot keep the kids from their father. I do not want to be the one responsible for keeping them apart. This same stress comes up every two weeks. The same conversations over and over. I don't have the answers and don't know what to do. I don't think any of us want to go back into court. We all want what's best for the children. We just have different ideas of what that is. The whole thing will blow over by Monday and we won't discuss it again for another two weeks unless the she-ex does something stupid and then we might get into a your ex vs. my ex discussion. Don't get me wrong...we're not fighting or even arguing. Hubby and I are just both so frustrated that these issues keep coming up and there's no solution in sight. So I once again begin my balancing act, trying to make everyone happy and knowing that it's impossible to do.