Helpless

A friend of mine has a thirteen year old daughter with an eating disorder. She's been struggling with what to do for a while now and I'm afraid that I haven't been much help. The girl has been to doctors and specialists. Some will not allow the mother in to the appointments. My friend doesn't know what to do and blames herself for her child's problems. She feels much guilt over her divorce from the child's father and the constant moving from one place to the next. This woman loves her child more than anything and yet feels completely helpless. As a friend, I feel helpless also. I've no idea what advice to give. I hate to see my friend suffering and blaming herself. I try to just listen and be there for her, but sometimes I say the wrong thing and end up apologizing because she took what I said to mean that she was a bad mother. Of course, That's not what I meant at all. I wish that I had all the answers. I hope that at times I'm at least a comfort to my friend. I'm not there yet but will be in a little over a year and fear: Is this what it's going to be like raising a teenager??